For the Single Parents

stay strong beautiful

For all the single parents out there:

I read so many posts from single moms and I just want to offer a word of encouragement. I’ve been there, done that, so I know what it’s like. I want to salute you (and all the single dads, too) for doing the work of two parents…..very often without any child support payments. Unless you have a great career which brings in a good income, it can be so frustrating. Even when you have plenty of financial resources, it’s still hard to find time to get everything done and still have time for the children and find any time to have a life of your own. Sometimes it’s damn near impossible. If you don’t have a great career, the financial part of it can be so very very difficult. A lot of people don’t understand this and are much to quick to judge you and tell you how much better you “should” be doing. Pay them no mind. Too many people are too quick to judge what they haven’t lived. I remember what it was like. It wasn’t easy. We live in a country where it’s pretty much impossible to live on minimum wage, let alone raise children on it.

So I salute you, I lift you up, I offer you love and encouragement. You work so hard and rarely get any credit for all that you do yet so often the criticism is freely given. We keep on keeping on, for the sake of the children.

A quote from the poem “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer comes to mind:

“It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children”

Here’s to all the single parents out there, doing it all on their own.


Kathy Lee 6/10/2016


Choice of Thought


There have been a few amazing teachers in my life lately ….reminding me of an important truth. These teachers have shown up in the way of internet people, clients, and friends, spirituality teachers and even a movie and a hawk!

We get to choose what we believe. We get to choose what we think. We get to choose the perspective of what’s happening in our lives.

A huge example was one that a client/friend shared with me. He had to receive a blood transfusion and it was freaking him out; just  thought of receiving someone else’s blood and the inherent risk  and also just the weirdness of it. So he changed his perspective. Coming from the Christian faith, he imagined that it was the blood of Jesus giving him new life. Once the thought about the blood was changed, he experienced perfect peace about the situation.  The situation itself didn’t change. The person was still in a medical crisis requiring the transfusion of someone else’s blood. But when the thought about the situation changed, the person’s reaction changed as well.

Abraham-Hicks says that a belief is only a thought that we keep believing. Louise Hay says that it’s only a thought and a thought can be changed.

While I do not believe that we can control everything just by the thoughts that we think, I do believe that we can control the way we feel about things by the perspective that we view them with. The message of the hawk (among other things) brings the message of viewing things with a new, higher perspective.

Too often we tell ourselves either outright lies or things we do not know to be true. We tell ourselves things about ourselves and our lives which are very negative and, most of the time, not true or just a speculation of how we think things might turn out. We can make ourselves miserable or even physically ill by what we’re choosing to think about situations.

So it may be wise to examine what you’re telling yourself about situations in your life. Examine your thoughts about things. And, perhaps, if things are not flowing the way you’d like them to, shift your perspective and try a new way of thinking about them. Try thinking with a new, more positive perspective.  You may be surprised to find that you will have a new reaction which leads to a new vibrational frequency within you which then leads to opening the way for Spirit to work in your life (instead of offering a resistant vibration) and more peace of mind for yourself.

Kathy Lee 6/10/2016